For A Select Group Of Children Who Bully, There Is No Remorse
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What the public school system in our country fails to admit is that children are bullying other children in record numbers. While there has been a public and private discourse among parents and education officials as to whether or not the number of children who bully has decreased in most public schools, the fact is it hasn’t.
Children bully other kids for several reasons. They may be angry at the world, or feel powerful among their peers, or gain popularity through their antics. For some it’s a way of attracting attention. Others may have been bullied in earlier grades and once they advance to a higher grade level, the need to pay back is strong.
Moreover, for a select group of children who bully, there is no remorse. They seem to feed off the fear they invoke in other kids. They are empowered by the scared look in the faces of those who they taunt and abuse.
Children who bully may come from homes where the dominant parent bullies either the spouse or the kids. Children learn by example, and if they witness an incident at home where there is verbal or physical abuse which is not followed by a repentant apology, their world view is limited to what they perceive to be a normal lifestyle. Thus, they engage in the same behavior by bullying children either at school, in a social setting, or on the playground.
One of the many myths associated with children who bully is that it is normal, or that it is part of their growth process. Or some would have you believe this is the only method in which they can fend for themselves. If you talk to kids who have been bullied, they will appear shy, introverted and sad. When children bully other children, they leave them feeling alone and, even worse, they develop a mindset that something is wrong with them.
Children who bully wreak havoc on other kids. Victims often refuse to go to school, cut classes, become ill at the thought of facing the bully, and eventually become isolated. Recent events have tragically indicated the lengths to which victims of bullies will go to seek revenge.
Parents and education officials need to develop a definitive plan to prevent bullying children from continuing this cycle of violence. Any time one kid inflicts pain on another, either verbally or physically, it is a violent act. It is up to parents to demand that their child’s school develop a program to educate every staff member to recognize the signs of children who bully. Children should seek the assistance of school guidance counselors if they have become a victim of children who bully. Children should not be afraid of going to school, nor should any child engage in harmful activities which provoke fear in others.
© By Mandy-Jane Clarke
Stop-Bullies.com
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